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Safe, sane and consensual, always!

This is ALL true

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BDSM Gallery

BDSM Gallery is a BDSM blog for anyone interested in the world of BDSM, with an emphasis on D/s dynamics. Large selection of BDSM images, quotes, and educational material.

http://bdsmgallery.org

Links & A Question

Hi. I would like to say I’m glad to find this on tumblr. The first link was given to me by a former friend who told me about BDSM after I saw some of her books. The second link I found to be funny (sometimes) yet still has an educational value to it.

http://www.leathernroses.com/lnrhome.htm

http://www.bdsmwise.com/content/menu.htm

Are you considering making a suggested reading list?

http://thegentlemaster.blogspot.com/

musings on the benefits of being an Dom.

My BDSM blog

my blog, deathlesshorsie.tumblr.com is a sea of inspiration for people in the BDSM scene, it’s a collaboration of answered questions, original content and reblogged pictures.

My journal as a submissive

http://dirtysubmissiveconfessions.tumblr.com/

This is my journal, set up on request of my Dominant. I record my daily tasks and punishments as well as general thoughts and feelings which come with being a slutty sub.

BDSM and LEO,

Something my wife, my GF and I put together at the request of a group in the SF Bay Area.  You might want to look at it.  If you like it I have it on a *.doc format for easy posting.

https://fetlife.com/users/1368/posts/1027999

And story of a married couple changing their life to a new direction

http://kinkylips.tumblr.com

The ramblings of my own depraved mind.  My own BDSM short stories.  As well as sexual images that turn me on. NSF

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Photographer: TedScanon Photography
Model: Gina Barros
Ropework: Rope Bondage By Ahab
Styling: Cherry Bombs Vintage & Styling
My new e-book, Rope Bondage Vol. 1 is available now!
http://www.e-junkie.com/ropebondagebyahab

Photographer: TedScanon Photography

Model: Gina Barros

Ropework: Rope Bondage By Ahab

Styling: Cherry Bombs Vintage & Styling

My new e-book, Rope Bondage Vol. 1 is available now!

http://www.e-junkie.com/ropebondagebyahab

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daddyvinnie:

Being Safe in the DD/lg Communityby Daddy Vinnie
Okay, littles, this post is mostly for you, though there are some sensitive Daddies out there that may benefit as well.
Welcome to the wide wonderful world of the Daddy Dom/little girl (DD/lg) dynamic. This lifestyle has so much to offer anyone: the chance to be taken care of and cherished; the chance to nurture and care for the most adorable little you could hope to have in your life.  Also, you get the chance to color, and play games, and play with dolls, or you can get naughty and play big girls games and play with Daddy’s lolly and indulge all your disturbing taboo fantasies. There are no rules, only your own twisted minds to play in - as well as each other’s bodies!
But it has recently come to our attention that many of you littles are endangering yourself in the kinky fetish community, mostly due to impatience, desperation, and loneliness.  This must end … now!
The DD/lg dynamic is a subcomponent of the BDSM kinky/fetish community. As such, it’s very active on sites like fetlife, among other places. When lost littles are looking for Daddies, they are making rash decisions to meet people they’ve only just barely begun to talk to, that they’ve never met in real life, that they know nothing about at all. And then in their desire to have a Daddy, they get taken advantage of - fucked - and abandoned.  There are a lot of scammers who will take advantage of impressionable young girls, and many of them are on fetlife and the other kinky social networks. They mask themselves, pretend they are good guys, find their way in to little girl’s hearts, and then use them quickly and leave them.  This is a sad state of affairs.
First, BOOOO to those Daddies who take advantage of vulnerable littles. But likewise, BOOOO to you littles who aren’t taking a deep breath and thinking clearly.
Now is the time to stop the madness.  Lolita and I love you all. We know that there are good Daddies out there for all you lost littles.  And we know there are good littles out there for you lonely Daddies.  So, here we go…..starting afresh to keep you all happy and healthy and joyful in your lives.
Know Thyself - before you can begin to submit to another or be a little to a Daddy, you must know exactly who you are, what you like, what you want for yourself and for your Daddy.  Do some soul searching.  Write it down. (This is how I got to know Lolita - she wrote extensively about her Little side, revealing pieces of her inner self and also what she thought about who a Daddy might be for her, and how she must *earn* a Daddy.)  Be inspired by her - take the time to know yourself more than anything else. Get in touch with your Little - embrace her, cherish her, protect her - she is THE most precious part of yourself.  Be HONEST with yourself to a fault. That’s sooo important. 
Make contacts in your community. Fetlife is a wonderful social networking tool for the kinky community. You can find events in your area, or relatively nearby, make contacts with real people, find social events in PUBLIC PLACES where you can meet people and talk over coffee or sushi, just kinky people meeting kinky people and being supportive of each other.  Friends are wonderful - they look after each other and keep each other safe and sane. 
Ask for References. Okay, so you’ve made contact with people on fetlife, and you’ve made contacts in your local community and made it out to a social. But that Daddy (or that little) that you are interested in, do you really know them from the brief messaging you’ve been doing? Noooooo!! So, time to ask for references. Did you know that Lolita asked about me before she met me… and that I encouraged her to?  The leaders in your community will know who is good news and who is bad news and to be avoided.  ASK FOR REFERENCES.  It’s an essential step.  And don’t ask the person to supply the references. There are lots of “friends” set up who will vouch for each other, and all they are is closed circles of friends who are causing trouble in their communities.  Find out what you can about the person or people you are interested in BEFORE meeting with them. 
Meet for Coffee First - not play or a play party.  So you’ve established that you like this cute “little” or that handsome Daddy and you are getting all goose fleshy every time his or her name pops up on fet chat or a message appears in your inbox.  Time to have a coffee date, or meet at a public park or restaurant. Now is NOT the time to go out for drinks and get drunk.  Now is NOT the time to go back to his place to “look at his record collection.” Now is NOT the time to go for a long private drive into the country.  And now is NOT the time to have him introduce you to his three closest buddies.  Littles - keep your panties on!  There are SO many good Daddies out there, you do NOT know that this is the one, yet.  Go meet for coffee. Talk. Chat. Establish a friendship, or not. Find out if this is the kind of person you want to spend more time with.  You know, you might meet for weeks or months without doing ANYTHING. The point is, establish a relationship first, preferable a friendship, before anything more serous happens. This is the important time, the time for reflection and recounting what it is YOU want for yourself, and what you want in a Daddy (or in a Little). 
Time for the old BDSM Scene Negotiation Checklist.  Okay, so the attraction is mutual and you are on the same wave length. Now what?  What do you do? How do you start? It’s time for you to learn more about each other’s kinky sides. Find a good BDSM Scene Negotiation Checklist and each of you fill it out.  Most DD/lg relationships have some sort of D/s twist to it, naturally. You may or may not be into heavy kink or impact play. So just adjust the checklist to your own preferences, whether it’s coloring and dolls or spankings and floggings.  There are no rules. What you do should excite you and make you feel good - that’s the only rule.  I have written an extensive post on BDSM Scene Negotiation Checklists. Check it out. 
Go Slow.  Okay, so you’ve had a meeting of the minds, and probably lips, too, and had plenty of coffee and snarky talks on skype and fetlife, and you’re hitting it off swimmingly.  You’ve negotiated your boundaries and talked about what you like and don’t like. And you still feel…….good, and excited.  What do you do next?  GO SLOW.  There is no rush here. If you are desperate for a Daddy, if you are desperate for a Little, you are going to make bad decisions.  Don’t be desperate. You’ve come this far - be proud of yourself for taking your time and make GOOD decisions.  Keep on making those good decisions.   Once you give in to your carnal desires and lusts, it’s difficult - impossible - to go back.  Be sure. Make sure it’s what you want and how you want it.  DO NOT SETTLE - EVER. 
Do what’s good for you.  It’s difficult sometimes to take the high road, but it’s so important that you do when searching for a Daddy (or a little).  Have some integrity and moral backbone.  Be super honest with yourself and your prospective partner. In a D/s relationship and a DD/lg dynamic, there is a superabundance of trust that must exchange hands - more so than in a conventional relationship. First of all, if you engage in D/s, then there is a power exchange involved. If you don’t give 100% completely, then it’s very difficult to truly let go and give yourself to another. If you are holding back, then what are you really giving?  Give your ALL.. in everything you do.  And that’s double so in giving yourself as a submissive, or as a little. Always keep in mind to do what’s good for you.  Protect your little, but also allow her the luxury of a Daddy that has earned his place and that you have earned yourself.After all, as my little girl would say, you are worth it, aren’t you?  You bet you are!  Lolita and I know that you lost littles are worth the best Daddies out there.  And for you lonely Daddies, we know you deserve the Little that fits you best.
Be good to yourselves…. all of you.  Do not compromise. Do not settle. Know who you are and what you are about. And never ever ever do something silly and spontaneous and without thinking.  You are too important and too precious for that.   
Know that Lo and I love you all very much. Thanks for following along. As always, you are welcome in our inboxes anytime.

daddyvinnie:

Being Safe in the DD/lg Community
by Daddy Vinnie

Okay, littles, this post is mostly for you, though there are some sensitive Daddies out there that may benefit as well.

Welcome to the wide wonderful world of the Daddy Dom/little girl (DD/lg) dynamic. This lifestyle has so much to offer anyone: the chance to be taken care of and cherished; the chance to nurture and care for the most adorable little you could hope to have in your life.  Also, you get the chance to color, and play games, and play with dolls, or you can get naughty and play big girls games and play with Daddy’s lolly and indulge all your disturbing taboo fantasies. There are no rules, only your own twisted minds to play in - as well as each other’s bodies!

But it has recently come to our attention that many of you littles are endangering yourself in the kinky fetish community, mostly due to impatience, desperation, and loneliness.  This must end … now!

The DD/lg dynamic is a subcomponent of the BDSM kinky/fetish community. As such, it’s very active on sites like fetlife, among other places. When lost littles are looking for Daddies, they are making rash decisions to meet people they’ve only just barely begun to talk to, that they’ve never met in real life, that they know nothing about at all. And then in their desire to have a Daddy, they get taken advantage of - fucked - and abandoned.  There are a lot of scammers who will take advantage of impressionable young girls, and many of them are on fetlife and the other kinky social networks. They mask themselves, pretend they are good guys, find their way in to little girl’s hearts, and then use them quickly and leave them.  This is a sad state of affairs.

First, BOOOO to those Daddies who take advantage of vulnerable littles. But likewise, BOOOO to you littles who aren’t taking a deep breath and thinking clearly.

Now is the time to stop the madness.  Lolita and I love you all. We know that there are good Daddies out there for all you lost littles.  And we know there are good littles out there for you lonely Daddies.  So, here we go…..starting afresh to keep you all happy and healthy and joyful in your lives.

    1. Know Thyself - before you can begin to submit to another or be a little to a Daddy, you must know exactly who you are, what you like, what you want for yourself and for your Daddy.  Do some soul searching.  Write it down. (This is how I got to know Lolita - she wrote extensively about her Little side, revealing pieces of her inner self and also what she thought about who a Daddy might be for her, and how she must *earn* a Daddy.)  Be inspired by her - take the time to know yourself more than anything else. Get in touch with your Little - embrace her, cherish her, protect her - she is THE most precious part of yourself.  Be HONEST with yourself to a fault. That’s sooo important.
       
    2. Make contacts in your community. Fetlife is a wonderful social networking tool for the kinky community. You can find events in your area, or relatively nearby, make contacts with real people, find social events in PUBLIC PLACES where you can meet people and talk over coffee or sushi, just kinky people meeting kinky people and being supportive of each other.  Friends are wonderful - they look after each other and keep each other safe and sane.
       
    3. Ask for References. Okay, so you’ve made contact with people on fetlife, and you’ve made contacts in your local community and made it out to a social. But that Daddy (or that little) that you are interested in, do you really know them from the brief messaging you’ve been doing? Noooooo!! So, time to ask for references. Did you know that Lolita asked about me before she met me… and that I encouraged her to?  The leaders in your community will know who is good news and who is bad news and to be avoided.  ASK FOR REFERENCES.  It’s an essential step.  And don’t ask the person to supply the references. There are lots of “friends” set up who will vouch for each other, and all they are is closed circles of friends who are causing trouble in their communities.  Find out what you can about the person or people you are interested in BEFORE meeting with them.
       
    4. Meet for Coffee First - not play or a play party.  So you’ve established that you like this cute “little” or that handsome Daddy and you are getting all goose fleshy every time his or her name pops up on fet chat or a message appears in your inbox.  Time to have a coffee date, or meet at a public park or restaurant. Now is NOT the time to go out for drinks and get drunk.  Now is NOT the time to go back to his place to “look at his record collection.” Now is NOT the time to go for a long private drive into the country.  And now is NOT the time to have him introduce you to his three closest buddies.  Littles - keep your panties on!  There are SO many good Daddies out there, you do NOT know that this is the one, yet.  Go meet for coffee. Talk. Chat. Establish a friendship, or not. Find out if this is the kind of person you want to spend more time with.  You know, you might meet for weeks or months without doing ANYTHING. The point is, establish a relationship first, preferable a friendship, before anything more serous happens. This is the important time, the time for reflection and recounting what it is YOU want for yourself, and what you want in a Daddy (or in a Little).
       
    5. Time for the old BDSM Scene Negotiation Checklist.  Okay, so the attraction is mutual and you are on the same wave length. Now what?  What do you do? How do you start? It’s time for you to learn more about each other’s kinky sides. Find a good BDSM Scene Negotiation Checklist and each of you fill it out.  Most DD/lg relationships have some sort of D/s twist to it, naturally. You may or may not be into heavy kink or impact play. So just adjust the checklist to your own preferences, whether it’s coloring and dolls or spankings and floggings.  There are no rules. What you do should excite you and make you feel good - that’s the only rule.  I have written an extensive post on BDSM Scene Negotiation Checklists. Check it out.
       
    6. Go Slow.  Okay, so you’ve had a meeting of the minds, and probably lips, too, and had plenty of coffee and snarky talks on skype and fetlife, and you’re hitting it off swimmingly.  You’ve negotiated your boundaries and talked about what you like and don’t like. And you still feel…….good, and excited.  What do you do next?  GO SLOW.  There is no rush here. If you are desperate for a Daddy, if you are desperate for a Little, you are going to make bad decisions.  Don’t be desperate. You’ve come this far - be proud of yourself for taking your time and make GOOD decisions.  Keep on making those good decisions.   Once you give in to your carnal desires and lusts, it’s difficult - impossible - to go back.  Be sure. Make sure it’s what you want and how you want it.  DO NOT SETTLE - EVER.
       
    7. Do what’s good for you.  It’s difficult sometimes to take the high road, but it’s so important that you do when searching for a Daddy (or a little).  Have some integrity and moral backbone.  Be super honest with yourself and your prospective partner. In a D/s relationship and a DD/lg dynamic, there is a superabundance of trust that must exchange hands - more so than in a conventional relationship. First of all, if you engage in D/s, then there is a power exchange involved. If you don’t give 100% completely, then it’s very difficult to truly let go and give yourself to another. If you are holding back, then what are you really giving?  Give your ALL.. in everything you do.  And that’s double so in giving yourself as a submissive, or as a little. Always keep in mind to do what’s good for you.  Protect your little, but also allow her the luxury of a Daddy that has earned his place and that you have earned yourself.

      After all, as my little girl would say, you are worth it, aren’t you?  

      You bet you are!  Lolita and I know that you lost littles are worth the best Daddies out there.  And for you lonely Daddies, we know you deserve the Little that fits you best.

Be good to yourselves…. all of you.  Do not compromise. Do not settle. Know who you are and what you are about. And never ever ever do something silly and spontaneous and without thinking.  You are too important and too precious for that.   

Know that Lo and I love you all very much. Thanks for following along. As always, you are welcome in our inboxes anytime.

(Source: prideoverprofitandgutsovergreed, via littlegirlinwaiting)

My new bdsm blog ^^

Hey there! I’m a 21 year old sub, masochist girl and I just started a bdsm tumblr. I wish you all could follow me. I will reblog pictures as well as posting some of myself and will write about my D/s life and how I see it.

http://letmefeelthyanger.tumblr.com/

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ilovetofuckdaddy:

daddy can be very strict


Safe sex? Another one of those provocative photo shoot type pics that goes against some basic rules for safe play with bondage.

ilovetofuckdaddy:

daddy can be very strict

Safe sex? Another one of those provocative photo shoot type pics that goes against some basic rules for safe play with bondage.

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Is the bdsminfo blog still active?  If not, may I just offer you my submission?

Yes, this blog is still active and submissions are welcome. I’ve got 25 articles/ideas in the draft queue waiting for me to find some time to put into this but I’m also in a transitional phase. I moved a couple of weeks ago and have a new partner/playmate and limited internet access so I haven’t had much time to work on this blog lately. 

Submissions are always welcome. I created this blog with the idea that it would be a community resource and project and welcome any efforts people want to put into sharing info, tips and safety thoughts here. 


The art of spanking

The spanking….And then you can begin with soft slaps with your hand. (All sensual spankings should begin softly and with the hand, no matter how hard you both like to play). The bottom’s skin needs a warm up. A well-warmed area allows her to endure much more pain afterwards.

Do not put your hand rigid, as a paddle. Let it relaxed, hit with a whipping action. Mix slaps, a little harder all the time, with touching and caressing. When you think that she had enough of that, rise the skirt (or lower the slacks, or whatever is needed) and continue over the pants. Begin hitting softer than the last ones, and build to stronger ones again. Remember caressing, massaging, and kneading throughout the session.

All the spanking should be that way. Soft to strong, until reaching the point where it begins to hurt, maintain there for a while, then caresses, then begin again at an intermediate point, for reaching a harder level than before, again and again. When caressing, run your fingers by the flesh softly, cup the buttocks, touch the sensitive areas, rub gently the bottom.

And then take down the pants, and begin again caressing the bare skin, and hitting from soft to hard. Depending on your bottom’s preferences, the cycles can repeat with different instruments, a slipper, paddle, and even a cane or a whip (supposing you have enough control of the implements to do it right, without hurting the bottom more than required). The spanking can be, should be, painful, but well within the subs limits. 

The session must be carefully balanced by the top. Knowing your bottom helps. But you must be constantly attending her body responses. The experience is not going to be good if your bottom ends the session sleeping, or if she stops it crying desperately the safe word. There should be pain involved but pleasurable pain, the pain she can enjoy, touching but never passing her limit. (If you don’t know what am I talking about, read Can somebody enjoy pain?).

The caresses between the spanking bursts gives time to the body to release endorphins, and that is what allows the bottom to bear more pain each time, and gives the nerves time to recover, avoiding the numbness the spanks can produce. Of course, there is a limit, probably when all receptors of endorphins are used, or when the body depleted its stock of raw materials. The limit also varies for many other reasons. Do not assume that because the last time your bottom enjoyed a hard caning, she is not going today to reach her limit with the slipper, or even with the hand. Be careful and perceptive. 


Where to spank?

There are also areas for more pleasurable spankings. But every bottom has her own preferences, of course.

Hit mainly inside the pleasurable area. Avoid hitting the same place again and again, because pain builds faster that way. Try hitting with a pattern, for instance high, then middle and then low in the left, repeat on the right, so she can anticipate where the next blow will fall, and prepare herself. 

Depending on the bottom, sometimes a long and slowly increasing spanking predictable and rhythmic has an almost hypnotic effect, that makes her reach the ecstagony. Try periods of rhythm, with surprises (a missing blow, a fast series of repeated blows in the same area, a hit in the thighs or the inside of the buttocks) for added excitement, but do not overdo it.

What you are trying to do in a sensual spanking is to get her a high on endorphins, that takes her to that place, the sub-space, the space of the submissive, where she is one with the universe, in peace and far from the pain and worries. This is not easy to reach, needs trust, skill and practice, but you can make her reach that point. And she will never forget. Or perhaps she reaches an orgasm.

The sexual spanking, instead, is for arousing both of you. Don’t limit your touch to the buttocks and thighs, touch her genitals, her anus, tickle the inside of her thighs, make her wriggle against your lap to rub your genitals, alternate sexual play with spanking.


Using instruments

If your hand begins to hurt (I love that hot tingle on my hand after some time spent spanking), or if your bottom needs a harsher experience, you can use instruments, but under the same guidelines. At the end of each series, you should be hitting hard enough for giving her pain, but not as hard as for making the experience a punishment. And of course, touching and caressing is still needed. If you have to bend your bottom over a chair, or in any other position, try to maintain as much body contact as practical, holding her with a hand on the small of her back, or holding her hands at her back, for helping help her stay in position and for keeping in contact.


After

And how do you finish? Of course, I will not explain how to finish a sexual spanking. Either you already know, or you lied about your age.

A sensual spanking should finish softly. A spanking is a very demanding experience for your bottom, physically and emotionally. You can make the spanks less and less strong until they become caresses. If you were using an instrument, return to your hand. Depending on your bottom preferences, you can let her rest in her own world, maybe just holding her hand, or hug and kiss her, telling her about your love, showing her that you care. A massage with baby oil is good and will soothe her reddened skin.

I hope that these hints make your scenes more pleasurable for you and your bottom, and maybe both of you can say, with me, “Oh, I love this game!”
(Source unknown, found this online a few years ago  and saved it, and Googling this comes up with no source but a couple of of copies on blogs on alt.com that I can’t view)